Don’t Just Guard Your Witness…Recapture It 18



Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23 (NKJV)

Before I knew it, the words had already escaped my lips:

“No I Don’t Want An Apple Pie…I Said That’s It!” {spoken in a sharp tone}

Side Note: Each word begins with Caps because I raised my voice just a little (in my opinion), but not in all CAPS because I did not actually yell at the cashier.

To make matters worse, I continued my rant as I grumbled and complained to my imaginary passenger about how “they” get on my nerves with trying to sell people stuff they did not ask for…and how “they” this and “they” that…and on and on and on.

And after going through all of these emotional calisthenics, I realized that no matter how I slice it, explain it, or shovel it…My attitude and tone that day had already compromised my witness.

Could you imagine how the cashier would have reacted when I got around to window number 1, if I handed her my credit card along with a touch card and said, “Meet me at church on Sunday…God bless you!”? Well, I will never know what her response would have been, because I was experiencing major inner turmoil that  was a mix between conviction and embarrassment by the time I approached her to pay.

I was convicted because I knew there was no reason for me to behave in that manner; and embarrassed because as an alumni and veteran of the world of cashiering and customer service, I knew full well that this person was trained to do exactly what she did…make suggestions to increase sales. And a simple “no thank you” would have sufficed.

As I write this, I wish I could say that only happened once or twice. But I would be compromising my witness further, as such a statement would be far from the truth.

Actually, according to my children, behaving badly in public used to be a norm for me in the past.

But what do they know? Well…more than I care to recall.

Unfortunately, they were sometimes ride-a-longs and were privy to some of my rants.

Even today, situations arise at drive throughs or in department store lines that would normally take me over the top. My children are quick to critique my responses, how I conduct myself. And without fail, with elephant-like memory, they just have a knack for bringing up past episodes to compare.

On the one hand, when they do this, I feel a little defensive inside. But on the other hand, I am proud of how far God has brought me. Over the years, I have come to realize that as a Christian, sometimes my greatest witness is through my walk and not my talk.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us. Hebrews 12:1 (ESV)

This verse of Scripture clearly defines what God expects of us. And at the same time, the enemy is in hot pursuit to discredit us. Nonetheless, we have to determine that we are going to win no matter what plot or ploy he presents.

And how do we that? Some would say, “That is easier said than done.” I would argue…”Not really.”

Tips for sure-proofing or recapturing your witness:

  • Be well-prepared to start your day…every day.

Command each day with prayer. Let it go before you and set the tone. Some requests you make to God should be like staples, such as, “Lord…order my steps today!” And once you have asked Him…let Him!


  • Be intentional about everything you say.


Know that your words are powerful. Always endeavor to build up rather than tear down. Always seek to encourage rather than discourage. Always aim to speak life rather than death.

  • Be quick to apologize and acknowledge when you are wrong.

Sometimes even when you have the greatest intentions, things will go all wrong. You may get caught off guard and react in a way that you are not proud of. Be willing to repent…the very moment you realize it. Give no place to the devil…ever!

You will not always get it right…but you will always be presented with an opportunity to make it right!

Lord, help me to guard my witness. And when I mess up, help me to recapture it….quickly! In Jesus’ Name. Amen.


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About Yolanda Perry

Yolanda is a devoted follower of Christ. As an author and speaker, she seeks out opportunities to spread the Gospel. Her personal mission is... To Communicate & Demonstrate Unshakable Faith! She is the proud mother of three and has one grandson, whom she adores. Her bonus family member is her spoiled rotten long haired chihuahau, Pennie.

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18 thoughts on “Don’t Just Guard Your Witness…Recapture It

  • Tyra

    “Command Each Day”, I love that. We have the authority to change our thoughts, our environment and our attitude by simply commanding that they come into the obedience of Christ. Right now I’m commanding my day to overflow with love, grace, peace and joy. Thank you Sis. Happy to be your neighbor at #raralinkup

  • Debbie Wilson

    Yolanda, thank you for your honesty. My children also remember things I’d rather forget! I love how you said, those are reminders of how far God has brought us. God bless you.

  • Mary Dolan Flaherty

    I too worked in the retail world, so I know your dilemma. You don’t want to be pushed, persuaded or prodded. You just want to purchase your stuff and get going. When we lose it, we are so hard on ourselves, but give yourself a break…you’re human, not God. There are times when you will lose your patience, and that’s okay! But like you said, we ought to be quick to apologize, even if it’s to the cashier. Hey, I’m still sort of beating myself up for lashing out at my sister in retaliation for her lashing out at me. We all have our moments….thanks for sharing from your heart.

  • Samantha

    I’ve been there! I’m not a patient person and other people have a tendency to lose my patience, especially when I use to work in retail. thank you for your wisdom in this area! Blessed to be your neighbor from #intentionaltuesday.

  • Lisa Murray


    I am always encouraged in my walk when I read your posts! They speak truth, God’s truth, in love. I need to be reminded that I am always a witness, in season and out of season. You sum it up well when you say, “You will not always get it right…but you will always be presented with an opportunity to make it right!” So freeing for me to finally accept and embrace in my life! Blessings to you, friend!

  • Kelly Chripczuk

    Well, I’ve been there and I’m grateful that our witness isn’t just our changed spirit, but also our need for God – our forgivenness speaks volumes. It will be interesting, as my kids get older, to see the kind of things they “catch” me on – interesting and challenging! Thanks for linking with #SmallWonder, Yolanda.

  • Machelle Wall

    A few years ago, I had a very similar incident inside of the restaurant. After my rant, I remembered that I was wearing my Church t-shirt that included the logo, “If you read it, live it.” I had not only misrepresented my Christianity, but I had also misrepresented my God. I was both embarrased and sad that I had allowed the circumstances of the day to dictate my response to someone who was simply doing her job. A healthy dose of repentance allows us to stay humble before God.

  • Crystal Storms

    “You will not always get it right…but you will always be presented with an opportunity to make it right!” I pray I hear His voice when I stumble and humbly repent and do what I can to make it right. Thank you, Yolanda, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday on Intentionally Pursuing. : )

  • Joanna Sormunen

    This has been a really hard lesson for me. I have learned, finally, to keep my first opinion to myself. And think about what I’m going to say. Many times the things we blurt out aren’t a witness to God but to our very human nature.

  • Carol

    Yes, our words and actions tell others about us. You have some good suggestions. I know that I do better when I start my day off with prayer. Blessings!

  • Katie

    Yolanda, I love your honesty here. And as a cashier/retail girl myself, I can tell you that sometimes the frustration goes both ways! 🙂 I love the reminder to “always aim to speak life rather than death.” It’s something I strive to do every day, both with my team and with our customers. Blessed to have been your neighbor at #livefreeThursday this week!

  • Jennifer Frisbie

    Wow, Yolanda, I needed this. I loved every word. Even during a few of those sentences where I started shrinking in my chair just a little. I don’t normally have an issue of acting out in public, but there have definitely been a few moments of behind-closed-door behavior that my children witnessed years ago that continues to haunt me from time to time. And they are always quick to remember my temper flaring. I appreciate these words from you today. <3

  • Gayl

    “Lord, help me to guard my witness. And when I mess up, help me to recapture it….quickly! In Jesus’ Name. Amen.” This is a perfect prayer to pray daily! We all mess up sometime or other. How comforting to know He forgives and restores! Thank you for sharing your heart, Yolanda! Blessings to you.

  • Brandy @ Cast Your Worries

    I think I was in the drive-thru line behind you and did the same thing! Those are tough moments. I love your tip about apologizing. I think sometimes the greatest impact comes not in always saying the right thing, but being humble enough to say sorry. Imagine if you would’ve apologized to the cashier as you paid? I bet that would’ve stuck with her all day! Thanks for the post!

  • Pat

    My goodness I had to laugh ! Thanks so much for Keeping It Real! For more often than not we all go through these moments! Thank God for His transformation power ! We’ve both been changed in that area and more changes coming. Keep up the good work what a blessing, it’s good post like this that Grabs Our Attention!
    Love you much