E-merging In Leadership 38


For the LORD corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights. Proverbs 3:12 (NLT)


I sat confidently and expectantly in my leadership evaluation meeting as I listened to the words, “We will go through all of the sections and then we can discuss everything, in detail, at the end.”

Now those words should have been enough to cue me in that I may hear something that might ruffle my feathers…just a tad bit.

What’s there to discuss? I am almost perfect, right?

Not so much.

As I glanced at the pages, I saw the word “Emerging” in a couple of spots. In my temporary state of ignorance…arrogance…or whatever silly word ending in “ance” that would fit; I thought maybe, just maybe someone upgraded the meaning of the word “emerging” in the dictionary and thesaurus. Could this word now mean “tip top”, “stand-out”, or some other adjective that holds the sentiments, “You are AWESOME!”?

Not this year. Perhaps the word will be up for review in the future.

This timing was very interesting…perfect even. Just a week earlier, I was expressing to a dear friend that I was seeking out mentors who could and would speak truth into my life (even truths that were not so pleasant to hear at times). Sure it is delightful to have so many people in my world cheering me on, telling me how wonderful I am. But as with everything, this area of my life needs to be balanced as well.

And “balance.” Let’s talk about that a bit. As I prepared to enter 2015, I decided I would hone in on two words, “balance & focus.” As God began to open some long-awaited doors and pour in some other blessings as well, busy has elevated to another level in my world. This led to lots of juggling, always playing catch up, and sometimes forgetting a task here and there. Alas, it has been surfacing in my personal leadership roles and responsibilities. And NOW is always a great time to deal with a need for improvement.

I have always prided myself for craving and welcoming constructive criticism.

Hmmmm…could this have been because I do not get it often enough?

The jury is out on that one. And I have no problem with them taking a little more time off.

Nonetheless, the opening Scripture assures us that God allows correction to come simply because He loves us.

Great leaders “emerge.” They do not just appear. And in keeping with my debut blog, Excuse My Flaws…I Am Still Under Construction,” we sometimes have to hear the hard things, the unpleasant things, to provoke us to grow in leadership.

I wish I could declare that God only allowed such a conversation, during this evaluation period, just so that I could have something to blog about today. But actually my grandson had already provided me with some great material to expound on (come back for Whimsical Wednesday next week to read it).

I also wanted to postpone this topic for a week or so in order to honestly say, “I had a past experience…blah blah blah”. But this meeting was just yesterday.

Yep! Me…slapped by the “E” word! E-merging.

Though my eval was passing and there were many areas of proficiency and even distinguished, in some cases, I was stuck on that “E” word for a moment.

Truth is, I am navigating the new territories that God is opening up to me, I am “merging” all that He has entrusted into my hands, thereby E-merging into the leader He has designed for me to be. And I have to remain open to hear what He is allowing to be spoken to me about certain areas I need to grow in.


As leaders we must be able to do the following:

  • Humbly lead by precept and example.

Even when it comes to hearing the hard things, like “here is how you can improve.” How can I coach my team, if I am not coachable? How can I teach anyone anything, if I do not a have a teachable spirit.

  • Take ownership without giving lip service.

I would love to say that I sat and said, “Thank you for pointing out my flaws and the areas I can improve in.” Nope. I had the nerve to try to explain. And while my explanations were valid, I am reminded that leaders “take ownership”…without making excuses.

  • Self-evaluate.

In all actuality, I was aware of the opportunities for improvement as it pertained to some of my leadership responsibilities. Leaders should do self-evaluations…often. When you do, correction will come as confirmation rather than by surprise.

By way of loving correction:

Leaders beget leaders.

Leaders discipline leaders.

Leaders encourage leaders.

Leaders produce leaders.

Leaders raise up leaders.


While we are born with leadership potential, our leadership skills must be developed through nurturing. I am fortunate to have great leaders in my path to groom, guide, and even redirect me through correction, when needed.

Even if that is not readily available in your sphere of influence, I highly suggest you seek it out. I am part of a huge church. And if I wanted, I could totally fly under the radar and just coast. But recently I have been seeking God for more mentors to speak into my life, even those who would lovingly have conversations that are not just singing my praises.

Everyone needs a check in their spirit every now and then. And the sooner it is brought to your attention; the sooner you get to address it; the less your flaws are exposed to others…who undoubtedly sees them, but would not dare bring them to your attention.

Last note…If everyone in your circle is only telling you how amazing you are, it is time that you expand your circle.

Lord, thank you for being the best example of leadership. Oh how I desire to be more like you. In Jesus’ Name. Amen


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About Yolanda Perry

Yolanda is a devoted follower of Christ. As an author and speaker, she seeks out opportunities to spread the Gospel. Her personal mission is... To Communicate & Demonstrate Unshakable Faith! She is the proud mother of three and has one grandson, whom she adores. Her bonus family member is her spoiled rotten long haired chihuahau, Pennie.

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38 thoughts on “E-merging In Leadership

  • Dolly@Soulstops

    As I read your post, I wanted to say, “You’re so brave,” and you’re modeling leadership right here…the truth is none of us is perfect, even the most godly leaders we admire…we all have places that need improvement and it is the willingness to hear and to change is what keeps us humble and not proud (a sure recipe for disaster)…and yet, it is hard to hear because we all struggle with pride…for me, I don’t have anyone as a mentor per se right now but my husband does a good job of keeping me honest…and I regularly ask God to show me (Ps 139:23-24) so I’m pretty aware for the most part of my weaknesses…Thanks again for your wise words.

  • Christine Duncan

    Yolanda, your writing style is so fabulous. I love the humour and the honesty, it’s fresh!
    As for the topic today, I think about it and I notice that I have no issue with taking criticism from strangers, and friends… but my weak spot is family!!! I have to confess, nothing gets under my skin than a family member calling me on something I know might be a problem, lol.
    Lord, I’ll be asking Him for an extra dose of humility over the next while, see if He can’t change that sticky part of me 😉
    Great post, today, I love visiting!

    • Yolanda Perry Post author

      Christine…you have breathed encouragement into to life. Words like your make me want to write just one more blog. Thank you for dropping by today and making your presence known!

  • Kristin Hill Taylor

    I love the contrast in emerging and appearing. It reminds me of how life — especially faith — is a process and God wants us to embrace the journey. He cares about who we are becoming and not only where we’re going. I’m so glad you linked up for #ThreeWordWednesday today!

  • Ginger Harrington

    Though it is hard, we are better for it when it is done in love. It’s extra hard when there is a spirit of criticism or impatience. Great comments on leadership with your usual candor and humor. Loving it!


    Hi Yolanda, these are amazing truths. ‘A leader produces a leader’ is my favorite. May God grant that we emerge and be great leaders who will lead those put in our care to His Will.
    Thank you for sharing and God Bless

  • Stephanie Tisby

    Praise God !!! This is Awesome. Something that came to my mind is that iron sharpens iron. Praise God for the people that rebuke us as well as the people that praise us. It keeps us humble so that We don’t walk in pride. Girl this is really good !!!

  • Lisa Murray


    Love your perspective on leadership! It is true, “Great leaders ’emerge.’ They do not just appear.” How often we just want the easy path, to arrive at our destination without the friction or challenges. Leadership is rarely born, most often grown and developed throughout the journey!

    Blessings to you this week!

  • Sharita

    Oh Yolanda, this is GREAT! I “say” that I am all about getting constructive feedback, but really in my “ance” brain, I want everyone to say, “Naw, girl– you are good. All the way developed like Jesus wants you to be.”

    But that isn’t the Truth. And I need Truth in my life!

    Love your passion for leadership here (I am very similar– had a minor in leadership studies in college!) which makes me even more excited to connect IRL very soon.

    Blessings to you, my new friend! Here’s to emerging for Jesus.

  • Mary Dolan Flaherty

    Yolanda, thank you for sharing your heart! I love, “Great leaders emerge. They don’t just appear.” So true, yet in our excitement to lead, we often forget that and think that everyone needs to recognize not the potential, but the ability! AND, I can’t believe you have a grandson! You don’t look old enough! Great advice…it’s so important that we have people in our lives who will speak “truth in love” and not just stroke us. We’ll never grow into great leaders that way!

    • Yolanda Perry Post author

      Mary…first you can visit every week and remind me of how young I look! lol

      Yes…and God will show us the people who can and will lovingly tell us what we need to hear! Blessings Friend!

  • Christy Mobley

    Wonderfully transparent Yolanda. So glad I get to be with you again today. No one likes to hear criticism for sure but it is necessary. Have you ever read the book Love Works, by Joel Manby, about how to be a loving leader. Great read.

  • Deb Wolf

    So much truth here. Great leaders listen and are always learning. Love your list of things great leaders do. This should be mandatory reading for anyone in leadership. Thanks so much for linking up at CMB.

    • Yolanda Perry Post author

      Strangely…it didn’t seem hard at all Betsy. I was sitting before someone who loves me dearly. And while, I was trying to explain away, our conversation was one laced in peace…I laughed at myself after the fact. And yes…I God is making me better day by day! 🙂

  • Dana

    I like that you said “teachable spirit.” I don’t know everything, and I need to remember to be open to what I can learn in every experience and situation.
    Thank you! I enjoy your point of view!

  • Janet Benson

    Your comment on the possibility that my circle might need a little expanding… that one really hit the mark. So many well thought out statements that my soul is still absorbing. Thank you for a wonderful post. I look forward to many more to come!