Leading by Loading…The Diswasher 24

Dirty Dishes  Photo Credit: lifeasadivorceddad.com


“And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching.” Titus 2:7 (NLT)

Am I really up at 2:14 AM, this Friday night/Saturday morning loading the dishwasher?

And what were those girls doing all evening?

One is passed out after a long day of weekend homework. Kudos to Kyra for being a great student, even though most of those dirty dishes were hers since she had a day off from school while I was slaving away at work.

As for Kadazia, that is another story…she text earlier asking if she could have an extended curfew tonight. I had the nerve to play nice and say “Yes”. I got caught up in one of my  proud Mommy Moments when she reassured me that she would NOT be drinking. And yes she typed it in all caps for emphasis!

After a long evening nap and awakening, feeling like I was into the next day, I strolled to the kitchen to see dishes from counter to counter. What’s worse is that I had not eaten or drank anything, as I was fasting.

Then I remembered…It’s my day for the kitchen. Yes…but OH NO…

I needed a strategy…and fast. A Scripture comes to mind:


“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with promise:  ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.’” Ephesians 6:1-3 (NKJV)


I could just shake things up and have one of them do it. If I get any lip service I can shoot back with the Word and remind them that their response to my directive could affect their life span. Perfect! …NOT!!!

As much as I wanted to pull rank and call on my Mommy power, I knew I had to do the right thing, which was honor the chore schedule I put in place.

Who on earth would schedule herself on the chore chart and publish it?

ME…Guilty as charged! I guess I did not think that one through very well…

Truth is…over the last few months there have been many debates over whose turn it was to do the kitchen. One child felt my sporadic appointing method was unfair and that she was doing more than her sister. The great debater that I am arose and declared that I do more than anyone since I am responsible for the whole household. But once I dismounted my soapbox, I realized I needed to manage our world a little bit better.

A family calendar in the hallway for all to use and all to see was the greatest solution. After putting it up, I left for a retreat. My heart melted when I got a text from the child who felt she was being subjected to slave labor that said, “Great thinking getting that calendar for the hallway! I think it will work well!”

Sigh…Another proud Mommy Moment for me.

And it did work well…until this week, this day that I am up in the middle of the night trying to internally justify why I should not have to do the kitchen. Even though it is on the calendar (written in ink too!) October 31st, in my own handwriting, “Mommy: Kitchen”.

Am I being spooked. Nope. I am being challenged…to rise to the occasion!

What occasion?

Every occasion…that I get to lead, in my home, by precept and example.

As the leading Scripture so eloquently puts it:


And you yourself must be an example to them by doing good works of every kind. Let everything you do reflect the integrity and seriousness of your teaching. Titus 2:7 (NLT)


When read in context, this Scripture speaks of teaching sound doctrine. Hmmm…What lessons do I want my kiddos to learn from me? I desperately want to instill certain values in my children.

For me…dirty dishes presented an opportunity to show true leadership in my home. An opportunity to demonstrate to my girls that we must all practice what we preach and walk what we talk. I want to teach my girls valuable lessons, such as:

  1. Honor every commitment you make.
  2. Take pride in your environment.
  3. Good leaders follow through.


We are all called to lead in different capacities: in the workforce, in our churches, in our communities, etc. But our primary call to leadership is in our homes. This is where it all begins. God may call us to do many great things. But our home will forever be our greatest platform. So grab a dish rag and declare…”I’ll clean my own kitchen tonight!”

Lord, Help me to lead by precept and example in my home! In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

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About Yolanda Perry

Yolanda is a devoted follower of Christ. As an author and speaker, she seeks out opportunities to spread the Gospel. Her personal mission is... To Communicate & Demonstrate Unshakable Faith! She is the proud mother of three and has one grandson, whom she adores. Her bonus family member is her spoiled rotten long haired chihuahau, Pennie.

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