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Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. Psalm 139:14 (NLT)
What is being “normal” anyway? Normal is defined as “conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected. Hmmm…how does one who is specifically and uniquely crafted by the God of all creation supposed align with that definition? Better yet, why should anyone have to? We were created in the image of God, which is multi-faceted and non-conforming.
Even Scripture reminds us that we are not called to heed to the world’s standards. Paul writes in Romans 12:2 (NIV), “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
We should celebrate our differences and never feel compelled to apologize for who we are, for our likes and dislikes, for our taste, or for our thought process…as long as each aligns with the will of God for our lives. Someone else’s opinion of us should never override our conviction about our true selves.
Always be true to who YOU are. God did not create you to be someone else’s version of yourself.
As long as you are walking closely enough with God such that you can hear Him clearly…His convictions, His instructions, His promptings…never allow anyone else’s views dictate what makes you feel good or right about you. If you do, that feeling will be temporary at best.
Always seek out mentors who possess the heartbeat of God, who walk in His love and compassion.
God will put people in your path who will speak life and truth into your spirit, if you are open to what He gives them to say…just when you need it. And even when it does not feel good, it will still feel right to YOU when spoken from a place of love. And when they are not available, you will sometimes have to be your own sounding board…your own biggest fan…your own greatest encourager.
Finally, don’t just BE YOU…DO YOU with confidence!
I have three INCREDIBLE children, all have totally different personalities. My daughter, Kadazia, has the most colorful personality I know of. Her imagination goes far beyond anything that can be described in words. From a very early age, she sought out ways to make sure she was different and stood out from the crowd. More often than not, her taste did not fit the status quo and she has an art of breaking every fashion rule and trend ever set (whether spoken or unspoken). Though Kadazia was bold enough to do, try, or wear what most would never even attempt, she still, at times, sought the approval of others. Inside, she wanted to fit (sort of). I can remember a time or two or three that I was not in approval of an outfit choice…all because I thought it was not presentable.
Thankfully I came to a conclusion very early on. It came in the form of thought provoking questions: Would it be better for my children to dress in outfits that they feel out of place in because everyone else approves? Or would it be better if my children feel good about themselves in what they think suits them despite what others think about it, including me?
With grinding teeth and a slanted smile…I chose to answer “no” the the first question and “yes” to the latter question. No way should they ever conform to what others think at the cost of feeling conflicted inside about who they really are.
Most times I shook my head at Kadazia’s clothes of choice: mixed patterns and colors and fabrics all in one custom-made ensemble. But I can remember her smiles and feeling the aura of confidence and poise beaming from her as she glanced back as she went off to school. I remember saying to her once, “Well Kadazia…at least you can pull it off!” And she did. We’d sometimes arrive at a pre-determined destination and step out of our vehicle. Just a few steps in I’d overhear someone say something like, “Hey, cute outfit!” Ironically, they were referring to Kadazia’s attire not mine. Go figure. I would chuckle inside. Then I felt proud that I get to be her mom. And then I kinda start to like the outfit a little too. Well…that may be stretching it a bit…
Nonetheless, my beautiful girl taught me how to embrace the unpopular, how to embrace the unique, how to embrace a new kind of “normal” that comes in many shades, shapes, sizes, and styles that we present to the world individually.
You get to define normal for you. Never feel compelled to apologize for the YOU that God created YOU to be.
Be You authentically. Celebrate You daily. Do You confidently.
And love You…just the way YOU are!
Lord, Thank You…for the me, that You created me to be…in Jesus’ Name. Amen!
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